So, Andrew and I just had a serious conversation about my last reblog.
And I pointed out to him that women in the media are often forced into sexual situations of torture or force, or coercion. And then I mentioned how this only further perpetuates the idea that any man can force or coerce a woman into sex because it’s his “right” as a man, and her “responsibility” as a woman to please him.
I then pointed out that he does it to me. Not often, and I almost always give him a major tongue lashing and I honestly keep sex away from him until I want it. I pointed out to him that he sometimes gets upset with me because I don’t have sexual encounters with him when I don’t feel like it. Sometimes he forgets that it’s not my JOB to have sex with him whenever he wants. (Unless of course we’re doing some D/s play, in which we’ve negotiated a safe word, and he can ‘force’ me into sex acts with him. But, I like it like that sometimes…)
Anyway. Point is, that he does this, he knows he does this, and he knows WHY he does this. But, he also realizes when he does it, and ALWAYS apologizes, and lets me know that he cares about me, and he would never force me to do anything I don’t want to do, and that his libido gets the best of him sometimes. I know that this probably sounds like he’s total jerk, but he knows that he’s mildly sexist, and does his best to get past the ideas of a relationship between men and women that the media and society have instilled in him since birth.
This was a pointless, long rambling update on serious conversations with my fiance, and was kind of totally pointless. Idk. I just felt like posting. Whatever.